13 thoughts on “For This Bakery, the Customer Isn’t Always Right – Tikun Olam תיקון עולם إصلاح العالم
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  1. You feed your Jewish kids `ham and cheese croissant `?

    it explains a lot to us about how strong your jewish identity is  🙂

  2. Bless our soul, we have another frume Yid among us. The sole criteria for Jewish identity is observance of halacha. 95% of American Jews eat ham. Does that mean they have no Jewish identity? Are they “bad Jews” whatever that means? Lordy, Lordy–if Jewish existence is based solely on whether or not you eat ham we’re done for folks.

    One of my sons is a vegetarian. Does that mean there’s hope for him yet??

  3. Richard – I guess we need the “Joesph’s” of the world to define our Jewish identity for us…  My Uncle Joe was a non-observant Jew in Europe in the 30’s.  He ate ham and bacon.  It didn’t keep him out of Auschwitz and Treblinka…

    But as far as your main post “NO SOUP FOR YOU!”

  4. I know plenty of secular Jews that draw the line at ham, not to mention other pig products. Some people have respect for their religion and tradition. What has come before. And some people don’t.

  5. Interesting thing – how does one become a Jew?
    Is it only on the mother side, if she is a Jew then her offspring become Jews?
    Because non-technically speaking, I am 25% Jew… or perhaps more… it is complicated…

  6. Your thinking of coming aboard, if you are then it means you have to shelve the anti-semitism. Can you do that?

  7. I can’t tell tell if Judy is trying to be helpful or just want to raise my blood pressure. Aussie ‘Dovidel’ has been stalking me for ages. I don’t give a crap about what he writes about me. The more visibility I get in the blogging & media world the more obsessed he seems to become w. me. I welcome the few visitors he sends my way (Judy being one of them perhaps?). But if any of my readers want to wade into the miasmic swamp over there & say something on my behalf they’re more than welcome. It won’t help very much though I’m afraid.

    @Americangoy: In Orthodox Judaism you become Jewish based on your mother. In Reform Judaism you can become Jewish based on either parent being Jewish. And contrary to what Bill Pearlman says there is no litmus test concerning becoming Jewish. You can say & believe pretty much whatever you want concerning Israel & Judaism. It’s one of the grand things about the religion.

    @ Bill Pearlman: Gimme a break, Bill; or should I say Rabbi Bill. Who died & gave you the right to determine whether or not I respect Jewish tradition? I forgot more about Jewish history, literature and theology than you ever knew. In other words, I have deep respect for my religious tradition. I just don’t define whether or not I eat pork as determining whether or not I respect those traditions. Thank God we are a heterodox tradition, though we have many like Bill who would impose rigid standards for determining who is a good and who is a bad Jew.

    Our rabbis long ago told the Bill Pearlmans or our religion to take a hike when it comes to making judgments like the one he’s made.

  8. Depends how you look at it. If you go with a reform conversion, then anything goes. If you follow the old ways, the way its always been. then there are restrictions. Ham being among them. I don’t think restricting the intake of products made from a pig. Which are specifically prohibited, is a rigid standard. But maybe you can’t go without your pork chops.

  9. I was interested in your moral dilemma regarding your somewhat sharp response to the treatment you got at the bakery. From your viewpoint, one could say that sometimes the world turns on a single cupcake. Seems like you have identified ‘rigidity’ as a moral falw, and in all likelihood it is. I imagine (or guess) you must have been thinking of the train operators in Germany, who could not stray from their naturakl tendency to make the trains run on time, even if one must assume they did not all approve of what the trains were up to. So thye corollary could be that it’s not about a single cupcake, but about the principle that all rules come (or should) with the possibility of exception. Every refugee asking for asylum in the world is counting on the possibility of being the one exception. Of course, the answer is always – what if they all wanted to be an exception? and that I’m sure would have been Cybthia’s response – what IF every customer wanted just one extra cupcake? the fallacy of that is of course, that not everyone does.

    On the other hand, there was – as you realized, or you wouldn’t have written the piece – something similarly rigid in your own response – one could say that breaking a 10 year relationship over a single cupcake is a bit righteous, which is a trait that can stray easily into rigidity of its own, especially if applied too broadly.

    Not that I have a better answer, having done something of the same myself – with a hairdresser – who one day made a statement that just pulled the carpet out – instantly and irrevocably. i walked out and never returned, surprised by my own abruptness – just as you seemed to. I wasn’t particularly proud of my reaction, except by the fact that d I didn’t even bother to make an excuse for myself later. It was as if that relationship has outlived its alloted time, and it didn’t take all that much to take the short way out. And I suspect that’s what really could have happened in your case. It was perhaps just time to break an old habit and acquire a new one.

    I am hoping that the same is kind of what’s happening with Obama and the country. I believe that somehow, people across the board realize that it’s time to walk out on the old ways, because the new challenges ahead – both those seen and those just vaguely perceived – cannot be met by the old ways, however comfortable those must have been for some.

    PS Joseph’s comment about the ham is silly. reminds me of the joke about the jewish man who calls home to tell his wife he’ll be late because of an accident involving numerous casualties, and she asks “was any of them jewish?”.

  10. LOL!  I must admit that my eyes widened reading the “ham croissant” sentence!  My barely-practicing Muslim family draws the line at pork (but thankfully not wine!!!).

    To each his own!

  11. Wonderful story Richard. So we share one obsession. Interesting too, that you heard something and wondered and not long after made your own experience.

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