Johnny & Rosanne Cash (credit: TakeBackCountry.com)
WNYC-FM seems to have a knack for producing some of the more innovative programming in the NPR universe. Studio360, featuring Kurt Andersen, provides thoughtful explorations of the arts and culture. This week, the show (Parents –hear it) took as its subject the freighted, complex relationships between artisitic parents and their children. Andersen focuses on Rosanne Cash and her father Johnny Cash and it is a deeply touching portrait of two strong figures who clashed in earlier years and eventually came to feel great love and devotion to each other.
Rosanne Cash said many moving things in this interview, but one of the ones that impressed me most was her characterization of Johnny’s dark years, when drugs and drink brought him to the verge of death. She said (this is a paraphrase): “My father had demons and they almost killed him. But the mark of his greatness as a human being and father is that he never inflicted his demons on others. He never took anything out on anyone. His problems were his own and you never felt that he tried to make them yours.” Andersen adds a comment: “”This is the mark of great character as well.” Indeed.
In the show, Rosanne surprisingly says: “I learned much more from my own children than I ever learned from my parents.” She also talks about the skills and virtues she’s learned in being a parent: notably infinite patience and self-sacrifice. I don’t know whether I’m reading into her comments, but when she talks about understanding the importance of giving up the pencil she’s writing with to her child and not feeling annoyed at the prospect it makes one believe that her parents might’ve been distant and self-centered and not provided all the love and attention she needed when she was younger.
Rosanne does acknowledge tensions in her relationship with her father. The story of their reconciliation is also moving: Johnny asked her to sing I Still Love Someone (hear it) at his Carnegie Hall appearance in 1967. She refused because she was angry with him about something. He asked her again the next night and again she refused. Then she says as Johnny shrugged and turned away from her, she saw in the frame of his back something she’d seen during his performances.
We all know of Johnny Cash’s greatness as a musician and performer. But some of us didn’t know as much about his greatness as a human being and father. This show confirms that. The show also explores the relationships of Sylvia Plath, Jack Kerouac, Bob Marley and their respective offspring.
Hear Rosanne perform September When It Comes in studio. This song was her last musical collaboration with her father. It appears on Rules of Travel.
For more on Parents, see the Studio360 site.
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Sounds like Loudon/Martha Wainwright’s “Father Daughter Dialogue”..of course the song is much better than just reading the lyrics 🙂
Martha sings:
Dearest daddy with your songs
Do you hope the right your wrongs?
You cant undo what has been done
To all your daughters and your son
The facts are in and we have found
That basically your not around
Dearest daddy try as you might
All you are is just uptight
You sing of my mother and me somewhat sentimentally
You sing of a father and son
When all you do from him is run
You like to think that things are okay
B by singing things that you should say
Dearest daddy with your songs
Do you hope to right your wrongs?
Loudon sings:
Darling daughter cant you see
The guy singing the songs aint me
He’s someone people wish i was
What i cant do this dude does
And if the songs seem slightly pat i know
Life’s messier then that
They’re just songs and life is real
They’re just my version how i feel
And you dont feel the same i know
How it went down or it should go
My mistakes you label wrongs
I expiate my guilt with songs
Why im uptight or not around
Those whys continue to confound
Darling Daughter cant you see
The guy singing the songs aint me